iontakeI have broken down completely. I can’t do anything and feel a bit helpless and hopeless. What’s next?
As I sit in the stifling heat, in my broken down car on the side of the road during Auckland’s Anniversary weekend, it occurs that we naturally expect our cars, as we do our body, to keep going at the switch of a button with hardly a thought about what’s required to keep this machine humming and for us that means our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual mechanics.
I wonder, how long has this temperature light actually been flashing?
Perhaps we feel emotionally broken, worn out broken, physically ill, recovering from a stroke or literally broken a bone. What got us here? What to do next for healing? and more importantly what to do to prevent this broken state occurring again?
If you are feeling this way, it’s my guess you were in some way living life at great speed or incredibly focused on your end goal you completely missed the subtle and the obvious signs to SLOW DOWN or take a step in a different direction or listen to an important message.
If you weren’t physically moving at great speed, then I bet your mind was racing with so many thoughts that you became blatantly unaware of the warning signs or danger head, or you were so preoccupied by your own journey you didn’t listen to someones story or advice.
Life has now stopped you in your tracks, for a reason.
It’s time to reflect on what you might have been ignoring around you and within you. Maybe you were ignoring your own body’s messages, those aches and pains? or you suppressed your intuitive responses letting your mind chatter dominate? or you just weren’t listening to advice.
Perhaps this circumstance is teaching you to ask for more help in life (particularly if you have an arm or hand injury) you now HAVE to ask for a helping “hand”.
Maybe life has slowed you down to spend attentive time with those who care for you and show your gratitude, or is life teaching you more about empathy from an emotional or extreme occurrence. Appreciating those least expected friends who came to aid and were supportive. You too could become one of those types of friends for another in need.
Whatever your vulnerability, you must know that you are NOT broken! You are just temporarily slowed down and can still achieve everything you set out to do.
Whatever your situation:
Embrace these 4 key points to be empowered by your experience and not crushed by it.
- You are NOT a victim of the circumstance.
- Take responsibility for the choice on how you are going to act and respond to this circumstance.
- Elicit the right strategy. Enjoy the healing process of body, mind, soul to get you back up and running again, this time with more wisdom and care.
- What have you learnt from this experience? Be empowered to live and learn from this experience.
These principles can be applied to any circumstance and level of emotional upset, physical injury/suspicion something not right, or when you are literally just stopped in your tracks.
In my case this Auckland Anniversary weekend, my car was temporarily out of order (it wasn’t broken completely) and I wasn’t going to be a victim of this circumstance, even if my phone was on the last bar of battery charge and I was stranded on the side of the road.
I elicited the right strategy. I used my laptop in the car with me to recharge my phone which enabled me to communicate to be found and picked up. Then in the safety of my rescuers car, and a car phone charger (less vulnerable), I called around to arrange a tow truck.
I was picked up by my wonderful man and son and had such gratitude for their care and rescuing ability. I decided Instead of being frustrated, upset and annoyed by the delay while waiting to be rescued, I made use of the quiet time and put pen to paper to write notes for this blog.
I learnt there wasn’t much I could do about the broken water cooler system in my car, but I was actually extremely thankfully it decided to go bust while I was travelling on my own and not with my 4 year old in the car on such a hot day with little water and no food on hand. I did think about the importance of communication to enable my rescue strategy and decided to invest in a portable phone battery pack to keep in the car for future travels.
Oh! and of course most importantly I learnt to take the flashing temperature light or other warning lights more seriously and take action (not ignoring the obvious) by having my mechanic check it out as soon as possible!